Transcript: Etiquette for Dumping

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Episode “Etiquette for dumping”

Andrea Syrtash: There is never a good time to break someone’s heart, but there are certainly better times. Stay tuned for the five don’ts of dumping. I am Andrea Syrtash and this is On Dating.

What’s the worst way to break up with someone?

Woman on street: The worst way to break up with someone is a text message, very impersonal.
Man on street: By either email or a text message.
Man on street: Definitely text message, can’t text message.
Woman on street: The worst way to break up with someone is the faze out.
Man on street: The worst way to break up with someone is right to their face; you want to get away from the situation.
Woman on street: Probably by email. That is pretty bad.
Man on street: By a text message.
Woman on street: The worst way to break up with someone is definitely in a text message.
Woman on street: The worst way to break up with someone is either texting or having a friend break up for them.
Andrea Syrtash: The lamest breakup story I have ever heard, was about a guy who took out his girlfriend for her birthday and as she blew out the birthday candles he joked that she should wish for a new boyfriend, because he sucked. That kicked off their breakup talk. Yeah it is awkward to end something, and you will see there is never a good time or place or moment that feels right to have the talk. But if you have been dating for at least a few months don’t rely on your date to get the message on his or her own. It is simply not considerate. So here is my list of the five don’ts of dumping.
Number one, after a few month of dating, don’t stop returning calls and disappear cold turkey. And don’t break up on email. Have the courage to end t in person. Number two; don’t break up in a public place, especially your date’s favorite place. You know her she will always associate you with that horrible night and won’t want to go back.
Number three, timing is everything when it comes to dumping. So don’t break up the night before an important presentation, at a holiday or birthday dinner, or at a family gathering. On the same token, don’t let a future double date plan or that new movie you were going to see together prevent you from ending it. Number four; don’t be like my friend Jen who claims she is just being environmentally friendly when she recycles ex boyfriends who are still in love with her. We all like instant gratification, but the general rule is hooking up with an ex who is still in love with you is not a good idea.
For one thing you are making it harder on your ex who may still be in love with you and holding on with false hopes. And another thing, you are making it harder on you, because when you meet someone new who you would rather spend time with, you are going o have to break up with your ex all over again. And that’s not fun.
And finally number five, don’t gossip all about your ex all over town before you end it and after you end it. The world is smaller than you think and it may come back to haunt you. Here is etiquette when it comes to dumping. Be clear, be considerate, and behave. That means no booty calls after you have broken your ex’s heart. Thanks for watching On Dating. And remember even a bad date makes a great story, thanks for watching and I will see you next time.