This may come as a surprise, but men do some pretty dumb things on dates. Don't be one of them. Host and dating expert Andrea Syrtash drops some knowledge on the things female dates complain about.
HI DEAR
PEACE BE INTO YOU HOW ARE YOU TODAY? I DO HOPE THET YOU ARE FINE. I SAW YOUR ADVERT AND LIKE YOUR PERSON IN GENERAL.THIS MADE TOWITE TO SHOW YOU, MY EXTERTOF INTERST IN YOU. PLEASE SEND MEAN EMAIL SOON AT AT MY MAIL BOX THUS FOR MORE DETAILS AND THE QUALLYSEND YOU MY PICTURE.
KISS MISS PRECIOUS
EMIL;(precious_damian@yahoo.com)
As a woman I look for a man who has the desire and capacity to build a relationship based on mutual love and respect. For me, there needs to be an interest in not only building one another up, and working to please each other, but a natural inclination towards creating something unique from the forging of two personalities.
A big turn off for me is men who are too independent and mainly oriented toward themselves. Some men seem to have compartments in their minds for things such as work, hobbies, money, material things, success, etc. But within those compartments there's no space for a woman. She's largely left out of his life, and what space she occupies is marginalized. A woman needs to know she plays a valuable role in a man's life, that she is a part of him, rather than some rented apartment off in the corner of his mind that he visits on occasion when he's in the mood.
One other thing - if your family (especially your mother) is more important to you than we are, you can forget about it!
Well, if I knew what I wanted, I would have gone for it right away, What I am hoping to meet is YOU, I don't have specifications like picking up appliance at the hardware store, am open minded and respect each and every individual for who he or she is, am not judgmental to give specifics on what I want, all I want is you and nothing else.
hukluk say so.
WE have to PAY for the date even though we make EQUAL amounts of money (and in some cases, MUCH less), we are EXPECTED to act chivalrous, despite the fact that if we're Too Nice then we'll end up in the Friend Zone, AND we're supposed to figure out what you MEAN when you don't SAY what you mean and you send mixed signals, not take what you say, "...at face value."
American women are their own worst enemies and I will probably NEVER date an American woman EVER again. It's just too...disheartening...
Strip away the propaganda and you see that an American woman doesn't like you for who you are, she likes you for what you make, for what you have, what you wear, what you can DO for HER. Men fall in Love with a woman for WHO and What She IS, NOT what she'll GIVE THEM and how she'll ELEVATE their lifestyles.
Congratulations ladies, you've achieved the Ultimate Feminist Trophy. You make more money than we do, you're more cold and calculating than we are, and more manipulative than we could ever hope to be, and we want NOTHING to do with you. Nothing to do with the Sex and the City, "I divorced well" mentality.
So congratulations, enjoy your luxurious empty lives, filled with material objects and short-lived relationships with bad-boys who don't give a crap about you.
Hi RQRose,
I just want to let you know that I do not think that only Ameriacan girls/woman think like that.When a heart of a woman is not prepared for sharing love and pain, good and bad, than the only person she can think of is herself! I hope you will meet Christian ladies as well. A Christian lady , who has been in the church at least 2 years and attended some cours about Christ and His únconditional Love for the people AND she received that love and forgiveness in her own heart, SHE WILL be able to give you the love you need.So question nr.1: are you willing to check this out by -openly- get in touch by Christians (evangelistic)and let them know that you are SO disapointed in the behaviour and mindset of the women you met. If you are open to them and they see that you are serious maybe they can explain you better why the women think like that AND MOST IMPORTANT WHY they do NOT think like that anymore WITHOUT being boring. Yes, it IS all about Jesus and His love for us, BUT you must not have the Idea that you have to believe before you can talk to these ladies.
To develope relationships with them is something else. It will start with friendship and talking. A real Christian lady will not step into a love affair just like that, because she NOW has discovered her worth/value and her Identity in God and does not want to loose all that again. She feels respected and can respect others. So, real love waits...
I wish you all the best and a REAL intermezzo with the REAL and DEEP LOVE of God, Jesus Christ who can CHANGE any selfish heart if they let HIM...! Bless YOU.
I great you from the Netherlands, Europe.
Sometimes, (in my case), playing hard to get is great, it gets rid of the undesirables. And, I even wear a ring on my left finger. As far as I am concerned, unless by the grace of GOD, I be transported to Asia or Europe, all your dating advice is no good. Good guys DO finish last! I have seen it, and I myself have experienced it. I made one tremendous error in my life and it cost me 19.5 years of my youth I will never get back. Unless you can bring back the statures of ladies in the 30s, 40s, 50s, their dress, their manner, their upbringing, it is all a waste. Girls these days are brought up spoiled, greedy. self-centered, "variety IS the spice of life", won't "flex" when a man will. All my life I desire a lady who would love me, just me, and not everyone else. A lady I would share housework with and be appreciated. A lady who would "try" and dress like a lady, and not embarrass me. A lady I can work and depend upon to use the money right, financially, and not go spend it faster than I can make it. A lady to look after the family, my and hers, not hers and someone elses who I had the unfavorable experience. You have any idea what it is like to find out that a girl you raised for 19 years was not your daughter? Find out it belonged to a black mans! A son to ask his mother why she kept it as a secret from his father for so long and then be told, "I thought it was his"! Yes, I thought so! I have nothing to do with this black mans girl I raised anymore, or with my son and his son, the grandson. I do not desire to go through this ever again. My trust in american women, there isn't any, whatsoever. So, you keep coming out with you "expert" dating advice, and I will show you one better!
Safehavenwithin.
You speak of the grace of God. Perhaps you should ask yourself these questions. What was you life like before you received Christ? What has life been like since you received Him? Harboring hatred, resentment, anger, bitterness, & hostility can literally make you ill (heart problems, anxiety, stroke, depression). It will consume you to the point that it overtakes any thoughts you have of happiness. Forgiveness obliterates the past and will permit you to enter the land of new beginnings. Forgiveness restores us to our original standing before God. To forgive is to forget. Ask God to choose a mate tailor made just for you & trust that He will do just what you ask Him to do.
Warrior
guys the world over are Dogs. What happens if you give a dog a bone that has got marrow still inside it. They devour it. And then bury it. Men are like that old saying about a dog and its master. So do not ruffle any feathers out there in the world and you won't get bit. But, the moment you start ruffling the feathers that is when the men will come to town and let you know what you did was wrong. men are all dogs on the other hand if you really want to meet a nice guy who seems to have it all together contact me.
The Truth is
1-Jealousy, Jealousy, jealousy of others relationship. Witch is the opposite of appreciation of what she have .
2-They are addicted to the past ex much like a prostitute with her pimp...still trying to get his approval, and never realizing the love they have right in front of them.
3-Most women are simply emotionally damaged "by the EX" and unavailable for a long term
Commitment.
4-Give a women your entire life, in the end, you refuse her one single thing, you’re looser.
5- Man be always prepared for the worst. Always always and always. Cause Women Change like a weather.
6-Man, Never argues with a women. Cause man always tries to make sense. Women’s point is to prove you wrong no matter what.
7-Good luck and good night.
Aderemi
No All men are not liers. Maybe we should put it like this; All the men YOU'VE dated are liars. Instead of labeling all men as liars because of your experiences, maybe you should exmaine yourself and see why you keep attracting liars, and guys who are cheats, and self centered. Believe it or not, there are some guys who have never cheated, and are intereseted in the other person and not just themselves.
Yes there are some good guys out there, but you need to find them, and stop sitting there crying and complaining because you always attract the dogs.
remmy
hi,all men are liers both the young and the olds.they promise heaven and earth but never fulfil it.they are cheats,self-centered and also full of themselves. they dont see women as being important. my advice to women is they should wake-up from their slumber and get out from the fools paradise.
What fools paradise? Where are they going to go??? If a Woman in America divorces a man she gets Half PLUS Alimony of around $400+ a month PLUS Child Support! The man gets NOTHING.
A woman who lives ANYWHERE else in the world gets NOTHING when she divorces a man.
Where ELSE can a woman marry a many for 3 years and then take more than HALF of his assets, PLUS payments!?!?!
Where do you live? I was married for 10+ years. I didn't get half of anything. He hid all of the money. He had control of all accounts. Yes, I was stupid. I trusted him. I gave him my paycheck and let him take care of OUR money.
No alimony, $150/mo child support for a severely disabled child. He is also often ill. I can not work because I need to take care of him. I worked full time until he was 17 years old.
Why would the jointly-owned assets be HIS assets? It does cost money for a child to live, you know--hence "child support".
So this makes one better than the other? Who was it that offered the apple to Adam? Yes!!!! A woman! Man always has wanted someone he can love and trust, a woman has always wanted everything else. And so, history repeats itself.
I'll disagree with you on this one sometimes the level of your intellectual capability is not the question. Guys stop doing things that you will not manage to do when you are in a relationship. Calling me 20 times a day sms me 40 times a day then you get me interested and start to lower down on the amount of calls and smses. Don't buy my attention seek it you will find it, if I'm not responding leave me alone. I know you guys you are doing your level best but at this day and age the excitement of going out on a date is no longer there. I'll settle for some indoor meeting your place or mine...........
Perhaps if some would speak/write beyond a third grade level they might just attract a man that would call back. If a girl is too lazy to spell the word "to" and uses the word "is" instead of "are" a man realizes that her social capabilities are quite limited and lose interest.
Good day people, my advice to all people who go out on a date never in your life have high expectations. Firstly you don't know the person so does he, what does that mean be yourself don't try too hard to be another person because this is the first time and it's very important that what the person sees is what she is going to get. Ladies stop faking who you are ordering salad and fruit juice while your are dying to have ribs and a cider. Gents stop figiting if she is yours she will like you irrespective of the big nose that you have. Be patient, honest to one another there is true love out there just wait it will get to you when the time is right. I hope I make sense...........
Hi, if i can say anything, is both part but we should be very careful ladies is rude and the guys is something else i once have a guy that is qualify with this attitude. he will promiise 2 call, he will not etc.I don't know what 2 do 2 him but i always make him feel important.
Well, I am proud of you, really! He needs to see the light and if willing, communicate it with him, tell him, don't hint it. Stay true and please, love only him.
no one is perfect in a date. its relative to ur partner. i recommend any guy on a date should study the lady with him and understand where lies her interest and lead the dating session in that direction avoiding areas she's uninterested in. again, there her some fundamental display of gentleness n respect towards ladies that ur date would naturally appreciate. in all of this, a guy should be himself while trying to build interest, affection, confidence and a feel of respect and appreciation in his date leaving a lasting impression to guarantee a next date.
Here is a list
1. Men Show Off or Try to Impress Too Much - So I guess Denny's by the Beach is ok.
2. Men are famous for the disappearing act - Ths is a nice magic trick, this should be commended.
3. Men Don't Listen to Us When We're Talking - What did she say?
4. Men Aren't Chivalrous - Hey, I opened my door.
5. Men don't initiate enough - Is that our responsibility?
It"s rediculous how men re being castigated 4 being straight telling the women folk what their like most. Most says "money 4 hand, back 4 ground", meaning materialism is it. I am not exonorating men from mistakes, not just that atimes more gravious and deadly, but their shouldn't be cruxified 4 what the ladies call for it.
Hellow,
Good day my dear.How are you doing over there.Hope fine.in a short way, my name is vivian.From west africa.I am a young single pretty girl,A girl that never married.I am a member of these dating site.i see your profile here and i think that you will mash my type.Pls write me back through this my mail contact at ( vivan_20062006@yahoo.com ) so that i will give you full explanation of myself.Here Waiting to see your quick reply in my mailbox.thanks from,
vivian
Ok, let's start at the beginning, shall we? Adam and his mistake of taking the offered apple from Eve because he loved her! There it is, Eve believed the snake that she could know all things and (guess what?), yes! and have all things. Adam just loved Eve.
In the interview, a guy and woman bothe said not to take what women say at face value at first. In your article, you mentioned about her going back to an ex, which is what happened to me. She never emotionally left him in the first place. Big mistake to not pay attention to what you see, and clues along the way. Never listen to "I am over him" and you still see photos, that they "just friends" and still see each other. While I only have myself to blame, all your advice only proves many women are simply emotionally damaged and unavaliable for a long term comittment. Big mistake to believe otherwise. They are addicted to the past ex much like a prostitute with her pimp...still trying to get his approval, and never realizing the love they have right in front of them. Kissing too soon, booty calls (never did like the term) only promotes more of the same. Hurt people hurt people. Relationships are held together by comittment, not kissing, booty calls. The grass is rarely greener, and the ex is for a reason.
Hi All,
Thanks for the comments! I'm not sure if you watched the whole episode or read the Yahoo article but I mentioned the I'm also going to cover mistakes WOMEN make in a future segment. I absolutely agree that women make mistakes, too, so stay tuned for that episode (here on 'on dating') in the next few weeks. Thanks for your feedback and interest. I appreciate it!
Absolutely? No doubt! That is affirmative! And the very first mistake was made by a woman, Bibically speaking! Adam just wanted love and trust, Eve (as offered by the snake), wanted to know all and "get" all. Why does this seem so "known" and "common"?
Hello!
I read the post with interest. I find when I ask a lady out, that often times she is so engrossed in what I can do for her, not who I am as a person. It's all about how much money I make, what kind of car I drive, what kind of house I live in, etc. Nothing about how I am as a person, my heart and soul, what kind of man I am in a relationship. women are so into the materials things and being taken care of, despite their own ability to properly care for themself. I see they want the cake and eat it too (old fashioned that the man take care of them, security, etc. then if they make more money than the man, he is worthless to them....what a poor attitude).I believe in chivalry, opening a car door, being polite, etc. Seems like most women do not really care about that. They want a man to be polite and listen, then from my observations, mostly blow you off. Communication is definitely a key. I am very direct and honest to a woman. I want her to understand how well I think of her or understand her. Rarely do I find her taking the same interest in me. I don't think I am a boring person, in fact I think quite interesting, but often I feel it is all about them, not about us! I don't mind picking up the tab, especially if I am asking a woman out, but it is nice for a woman to at least show some appreciation of my efforts, even if she will not go out with me again (like thanks for a nice evening). Women want to be treated like ladies, but I think they have also lost the manners to treat a man as a gentleman. We need that too, you know! Andrea, why don't you speak on the mistakes a woman makes on a date or poor attitudes that really turn a man off? Give her tips on how to be a proper date! It's not all the guys fault you know! LOL's
Hi, I was wondering, if a guy dates a women for 8 years. What kind of relationship should that be. Should he always pay for meals or should it be 50/50. At what point do things change.
I agree whole heartedly with reegiem56 word for word he stole my feelings exactly.They want to be treated like ladies and men like fools.Many I have met that go back to an abusive Ex. They want a gentleman for a fool
but a rebel by their side for adventure and thrills of danger.
I recently separated from my wife after I caught her secretly calling and talking on her cell literally hundreds of minutes with her ex who was abusive and cheated on her with her niece. I moved out and refused to be treated second best to anyone else. None ,zero,0 appreciation was shown for providing her with a house , medical insurance for her and her son, gym membership payments etc... it was never enough. Even then she complained I didnt give her spending money.Little by little I cut her off for these reasons, Bought her nice sexy cloth she would wear only when she went out alone so no more cloth from me girl, nice dark make up alone but excuses that she didnt feel like applying the war paint today that I was going with her,spent 45 minutes on the phone while at work with her ex but gives less then a minute anytime I call pratically hanging up on me since she is always busy (only for me) since she spoke to her ex over 30 minutes on several occasions while too buy at work.What do women want A MAN or Abuser help me understand please.It sound like I am bitter,no just hurt,and always give the same nice gentle-manly treatment to the next one after all it not the next ones fault. OHH by the way she never had a sitter for her thirteen year old son when I wanted to go out dancing , but found someplace for him when she went out clubbing alone.Go figure not this fool you don't.She is crying that she cannot pay her bills House included, Yeah I'll help. Help hold the bucket for them tears lol...
Get over it, it's not e-z. Just understand that they are the sick ones not you. Move on. Find someone that wants a decent man. However, do not try to spoil too soon. Women commonly mistake kindness for weakness. They also take longer to fall in love. Give up a bit at a time until you know it's right. Never keep giving to someone who doesn't care enough to give back. If you're doing that, you are equally to blame, and you must move on. Hope this helps!
I agree... women need to apriciate what a man does do. It should not be all about "us". It takes two to make it work, so why not be attentive to him also. Say thank you. When he compliments you or gives you the attention you want when you do want him to listen. Also... listen to him. Men should have a chance for advise as well as women.. What do we (as women)do wrong to men that try???
I have been married, and have two adult children. I am done paying for them now.(21 years later)I have never figured women out. I loved my wife very much, and did the best I could, In all department's. And It was not enough. so I am scarred. So every relationship I have had since then, has gone bad- for fear of rejection, however.... I know that some day, I will conquer my fear, and find a wonderful women!
Not really on the spot. Women do something to men's thinking process. Guys get all jittery, lose control of their thinking minds, blurt out all sorts of stupid and irrelevant things, make the funniest comments and generally behave like muttonheads. And of course they slip into the mode of impressing the women (trying to bowl her over)and telling her how wonderful she looks....without putting a lid on it.
He's not making mistakes....he just can't help making them. That's because he's bowled over.
A guy that isn't bowled over plays it cool and considered.
hi there i see your lines and ty for them. my big thing is with ladys. they never say thank you or even seem like they are there for you. just a chance to get out of their cramped apartments. it would be nice to have a nice lady who apprecites a man. not only looking for a meal ticket. there is such a thing as sharing and caring. on a first date it would be nice for the lady to offer to pay for something as we are now in the 21st century and womens loberation is a full generation. afterall you do earn a salary of simliar or higher amounts than a man nowadays ?
why does it have to be always on the take take take. WADDAH ABOUT SHARE n CARE ?
even if it is the first date. many men feel wonderful to have a lady ask to pay for something dessert the tip the cab,even an enterance fee.
have a great day and warmer nights to you all.
M*I*K*E
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HI DEAR
PEACE BE INTO YOU HOW ARE YOU TODAY? I DO HOPE THET YOU ARE FINE. I SAW YOUR ADVERT AND LIKE YOUR PERSON IN GENERAL.THIS MADE TOWITE TO SHOW YOU, MY EXTERTOF INTERST IN YOU. PLEASE SEND MEAN EMAIL SOON AT AT MY MAIL BOX THUS FOR MORE DETAILS AND THE QUALLYSEND YOU MY PICTURE.
KISS MISS PRECIOUS
EMIL;(precious_damian@yahoo.com)
As a woman I look for a man who has the desire and capacity to build a relationship based on mutual love and respect. For me, there needs to be an interest in not only building one another up, and working to please each other, but a natural inclination towards creating something unique from the forging of two personalities.
A big turn off for me is men who are too independent and mainly oriented toward themselves. Some men seem to have compartments in their minds for things such as work, hobbies, money, material things, success, etc. But within those compartments there's no space for a woman. She's largely left out of his life, and what space she occupies is marginalized. A woman needs to know she plays a valuable role in a man's life, that she is a part of him, rather than some rented apartment off in the corner of his mind that he visits on occasion when he's in the mood.
One other thing - if your family (especially your mother) is more important to you than we are, you can forget about it!
Well, if I knew what I wanted, I would have gone for it right away, What I am hoping to meet is YOU, I don't have specifications like picking up appliance at the hardware store, am open minded and respect each and every individual for who he or she is, am not judgmental to give specifics on what I want, all I want is you and nothing else.
hukluk say so.
How INTERESTING!
WE have to PAY for the date even though we make EQUAL amounts of money (and in some cases, MUCH less), we are EXPECTED to act chivalrous, despite the fact that if we're Too Nice then we'll end up in the Friend Zone, AND we're supposed to figure out what you MEAN when you don't SAY what you mean and you send mixed signals, not take what you say, "...at face value."
American women are their own worst enemies and I will probably NEVER date an American woman EVER again. It's just too...disheartening...
Strip away the propaganda and you see that an American woman doesn't like you for who you are, she likes you for what you make, for what you have, what you wear, what you can DO for HER. Men fall in Love with a woman for WHO and What She IS, NOT what she'll GIVE THEM and how she'll ELEVATE their lifestyles.
Congratulations ladies, you've achieved the Ultimate Feminist Trophy. You make more money than we do, you're more cold and calculating than we are, and more manipulative than we could ever hope to be, and we want NOTHING to do with you. Nothing to do with the Sex and the City, "I divorced well" mentality.
So congratulations, enjoy your luxurious empty lives, filled with material objects and short-lived relationships with bad-boys who don't give a crap about you.
Hi RQRose,
I just want to let you know that I do not think that only Ameriacan girls/woman think like that.When a heart of a woman is not prepared for sharing love and pain, good and bad, than the only person she can think of is herself! I hope you will meet Christian ladies as well. A Christian lady , who has been in the church at least 2 years and attended some cours about Christ and His únconditional Love for the people AND she received that love and forgiveness in her own heart, SHE WILL be able to give you the love you need.So question nr.1: are you willing to check this out by -openly- get in touch by Christians (evangelistic)and let them know that you are SO disapointed in the behaviour and mindset of the women you met. If you are open to them and they see that you are serious maybe they can explain you better why the women think like that AND MOST IMPORTANT WHY they do NOT think like that anymore WITHOUT being boring. Yes, it IS all about Jesus and His love for us, BUT you must not have the Idea that you have to believe before you can talk to these ladies.
To develope relationships with them is something else. It will start with friendship and talking. A real Christian lady will not step into a love affair just like that, because she NOW has discovered her worth/value and her Identity in God and does not want to loose all that again. She feels respected and can respect others. So, real love waits...
I wish you all the best and a REAL intermezzo with the REAL and DEEP LOVE of God, Jesus Christ who can CHANGE any selfish heart if they let HIM...! Bless YOU.
I great you from the Netherlands, Europe.
Sometimes, (in my case), playing hard to get is great, it gets rid of the undesirables. And, I even wear a ring on my left finger. As far as I am concerned, unless by the grace of GOD, I be transported to Asia or Europe, all your dating advice is no good. Good guys DO finish last! I have seen it, and I myself have experienced it. I made one tremendous error in my life and it cost me 19.5 years of my youth I will never get back. Unless you can bring back the statures of ladies in the 30s, 40s, 50s, their dress, their manner, their upbringing, it is all a waste. Girls these days are brought up spoiled, greedy. self-centered, "variety IS the spice of life", won't "flex" when a man will. All my life I desire a lady who would love me, just me, and not everyone else. A lady I would share housework with and be appreciated. A lady who would "try" and dress like a lady, and not embarrass me. A lady I can work and depend upon to use the money right, financially, and not go spend it faster than I can make it. A lady to look after the family, my and hers, not hers and someone elses who I had the unfavorable experience. You have any idea what it is like to find out that a girl you raised for 19 years was not your daughter? Find out it belonged to a black mans! A son to ask his mother why she kept it as a secret from his father for so long and then be told, "I thought it was his"! Yes, I thought so! I have nothing to do with this black mans girl I raised anymore, or with my son and his son, the grandson. I do not desire to go through this ever again. My trust in american women, there isn't any, whatsoever. So, you keep coming out with you "expert" dating advice, and I will show you one better!
Safehavenwithin.
Get over it..and be happy!! Life is too short. Believe me..there are plenty of nice gals out there whom would love to love you. YOU!
You speak of the grace of God. Perhaps you should ask yourself these questions. What was you life like before you received Christ? What has life been like since you received Him? Harboring hatred, resentment, anger, bitterness, & hostility can literally make you ill (heart problems, anxiety, stroke, depression). It will consume you to the point that it overtakes any thoughts you have of happiness. Forgiveness obliterates the past and will permit you to enter the land of new beginnings. Forgiveness restores us to our original standing before God. To forgive is to forget. Ask God to choose a mate tailor made just for you & trust that He will do just what you ask Him to do.
Warrior
guys the world over are Dogs. What happens if you give a dog a bone that has got marrow still inside it. They devour it. And then bury it. Men are like that old saying about a dog and its master. So do not ruffle any feathers out there in the world and you won't get bit. But, the moment you start ruffling the feathers that is when the men will come to town and let you know what you did was wrong. men are all dogs on the other hand if you really want to meet a nice guy who seems to have it all together contact me.
The Truth is
1-Jealousy, Jealousy, jealousy of others relationship. Witch is the opposite of appreciation of what she have .
2-They are addicted to the past ex much like a prostitute with her pimp...still trying to get his approval, and never realizing the love they have right in front of them.
3-Most women are simply emotionally damaged "by the EX" and unavailable for a long term
Commitment.
4-Give a women your entire life, in the end, you refuse her one single thing, you’re looser.
5- Man be always prepared for the worst. Always always and always. Cause Women Change like a weather.
6-Man, Never argues with a women. Cause man always tries to make sense. Women’s point is to prove you wrong no matter what.
7-Good luck and good night.
BLAM! Truthiness at it's Finest! Bravo and Brava!
Couldn't agree with you more. That is definitely hitting the head with a hammer!
Aderemi
No All men are not liers. Maybe we should put it like this; All the men YOU'VE dated are liars. Instead of labeling all men as liars because of your experiences, maybe you should exmaine yourself and see why you keep attracting liars, and guys who are cheats, and self centered. Believe it or not, there are some guys who have never cheated, and are intereseted in the other person and not just themselves.
Yes there are some good guys out there, but you need to find them, and stop sitting there crying and complaining because you always attract the dogs.
remmy
hi,all men are liers both the young and the olds.they promise heaven and earth but never fulfil it.they are cheats,self-centered and also full of themselves. they dont see women as being important. my advice to women is they should wake-up from their slumber and get out from the fools paradise.
What fools paradise? Where are they going to go??? If a Woman in America divorces a man she gets Half PLUS Alimony of around $400+ a month PLUS Child Support! The man gets NOTHING.
A woman who lives ANYWHERE else in the world gets NOTHING when she divorces a man.
Where ELSE can a woman marry a many for 3 years and then take more than HALF of his assets, PLUS payments!?!?!
Where do you live? I was married for 10+ years. I didn't get half of anything. He hid all of the money. He had control of all accounts. Yes, I was stupid. I trusted him. I gave him my paycheck and let him take care of OUR money.
No alimony, $150/mo child support for a severely disabled child. He is also often ill. I can not work because I need to take care of him. I worked full time until he was 17 years old.
Why would the jointly-owned assets be HIS assets? It does cost money for a child to live, you know--hence "child support".
Whoever can afford the most ruthless lawyer wins.
So this makes one better than the other? Who was it that offered the apple to Adam? Yes!!!! A woman! Man always has wanted someone he can love and trust, a woman has always wanted everything else. And so, history repeats itself.
I'll disagree with you on this one sometimes the level of your intellectual capability is not the question. Guys stop doing things that you will not manage to do when you are in a relationship. Calling me 20 times a day sms me 40 times a day then you get me interested and start to lower down on the amount of calls and smses. Don't buy my attention seek it you will find it, if I'm not responding leave me alone. I know you guys you are doing your level best but at this day and age the excitement of going out on a date is no longer there. I'll settle for some indoor meeting your place or mine...........
Perhaps if some would speak/write beyond a third grade level they might just attract a man that would call back. If a girl is too lazy to spell the word "to" and uses the word "is" instead of "are" a man realizes that her social capabilities are quite limited and lose interest.
No one is perfect,,,one just need to try measure up with the tips by denny.
Good day people, my advice to all people who go out on a date never in your life have high expectations. Firstly you don't know the person so does he, what does that mean be yourself don't try too hard to be another person because this is the first time and it's very important that what the person sees is what she is going to get. Ladies stop faking who you are ordering salad and fruit juice while your are dying to have ribs and a cider. Gents stop figiting if she is yours she will like you irrespective of the big nose that you have. Be patient, honest to one another there is true love out there just wait it will get to you when the time is right. I hope I make sense...........
Hi, if i can say anything, is both part but we should be very careful ladies is rude and the guys is something else i once have a guy that is qualify with this attitude. he will promiise 2 call, he will not etc.I don't know what 2 do 2 him but i always make him feel important.
Well, I am proud of you, really! He needs to see the light and if willing, communicate it with him, tell him, don't hint it. Stay true and please, love only him.
no one is perfect in a date. its relative to ur partner. i recommend any guy on a date should study the lady with him and understand where lies her interest and lead the dating session in that direction avoiding areas she's uninterested in. again, there her some fundamental display of gentleness n respect towards ladies that ur date would naturally appreciate. in all of this, a guy should be himself while trying to build interest, affection, confidence and a feel of respect and appreciation in his date leaving a lasting impression to guarantee a next date.
Here is a list
1. Men Show Off or Try to Impress Too Much - So I guess Denny's by the Beach is ok.
2. Men are famous for the disappearing act - Ths is a nice magic trick, this should be commended.
3. Men Don't Listen to Us When We're Talking - What did she say?
4. Men Aren't Chivalrous - Hey, I opened my door.
5. Men don't initiate enough - Is that our responsibility?
I am sorry, I guess by these statements you have listed, I am not a man! Seems this list is exactly what my "ex" is!
It"s rediculous how men re being castigated 4 being straight telling the women folk what their like most. Most says "money 4 hand, back 4 ground", meaning materialism is it. I am not exonorating men from mistakes, not just that atimes more gravious and deadly, but their shouldn't be cruxified 4 what the ladies call for it.
Hellow,
Good day my dear.How are you doing over there.Hope fine.in a short way, my name is vivian.From west africa.I am a young single pretty girl,A girl that never married.I am a member of these dating site.i see your profile here and i think that you will mash my type.Pls write me back through this my mail contact at ( vivan_20062006@yahoo.com ) so that i will give you full explanation of myself.Here Waiting to see your quick reply in my mailbox.thanks from,
vivian
We men shouldn't be defensive too fast. She's right about a lot of our mistakes. And she's so sweet and cute when she speaks, I listen!
hi i would like to know which mistakes make by man
Ok, let's start at the beginning, shall we? Adam and his mistake of taking the offered apple from Eve because he loved her! There it is, Eve believed the snake that she could know all things and (guess what?), yes! and have all things. Adam just loved Eve.
That was incredibly insightful. Our sin was Loving women more than God and what did we get for it?
hello madam you look so cute
In the interview, a guy and woman bothe said not to take what women say at face value at first. In your article, you mentioned about her going back to an ex, which is what happened to me. She never emotionally left him in the first place. Big mistake to not pay attention to what you see, and clues along the way. Never listen to "I am over him" and you still see photos, that they "just friends" and still see each other. While I only have myself to blame, all your advice only proves many women are simply emotionally damaged and unavaliable for a long term comittment. Big mistake to believe otherwise. They are addicted to the past ex much like a prostitute with her pimp...still trying to get his approval, and never realizing the love they have right in front of them. Kissing too soon, booty calls (never did like the term) only promotes more of the same. Hurt people hurt people. Relationships are held together by comittment, not kissing, booty calls. The grass is rarely greener, and the ex is for a reason.
Well said, truly wise thoughts...
Hi All,
Thanks for the comments! I'm not sure if you watched the whole episode or read the Yahoo article but I mentioned the I'm also going to cover mistakes WOMEN make in a future segment. I absolutely agree that women make mistakes, too, so stay tuned for that episode (here on 'on dating') in the next few weeks. Thanks for your feedback and interest. I appreciate it!
Absolutely? No doubt! That is affirmative! And the very first mistake was made by a woman, Bibically speaking! Adam just wanted love and trust, Eve (as offered by the snake), wanted to know all and "get" all. Why does this seem so "known" and "common"?
Hello!
I read the post with interest. I find when I ask a lady out, that often times she is so engrossed in what I can do for her, not who I am as a person. It's all about how much money I make, what kind of car I drive, what kind of house I live in, etc. Nothing about how I am as a person, my heart and soul, what kind of man I am in a relationship. women are so into the materials things and being taken care of, despite their own ability to properly care for themself. I see they want the cake and eat it too (old fashioned that the man take care of them, security, etc. then if they make more money than the man, he is worthless to them....what a poor attitude).I believe in chivalry, opening a car door, being polite, etc. Seems like most women do not really care about that. They want a man to be polite and listen, then from my observations, mostly blow you off. Communication is definitely a key. I am very direct and honest to a woman. I want her to understand how well I think of her or understand her. Rarely do I find her taking the same interest in me. I don't think I am a boring person, in fact I think quite interesting, but often I feel it is all about them, not about us! I don't mind picking up the tab, especially if I am asking a woman out, but it is nice for a woman to at least show some appreciation of my efforts, even if she will not go out with me again (like thanks for a nice evening). Women want to be treated like ladies, but I think they have also lost the manners to treat a man as a gentleman. We need that too, you know! Andrea, why don't you speak on the mistakes a woman makes on a date or poor attitudes that really turn a man off? Give her tips on how to be a proper date! It's not all the guys fault you know! LOL's
Hi, I was wondering, if a guy dates a women for 8 years. What kind of relationship should that be. Should he always pay for meals or should it be 50/50. At what point do things change.
I agree whole heartedly with reegiem56 word for word he stole my feelings exactly.They want to be treated like ladies and men like fools.Many I have met that go back to an abusive Ex. They want a gentleman for a fool
but a rebel by their side for adventure and thrills of danger.
I recently separated from my wife after I caught her secretly calling and talking on her cell literally hundreds of minutes with her ex who was abusive and cheated on her with her niece. I moved out and refused to be treated second best to anyone else. None ,zero,0 appreciation was shown for providing her with a house , medical insurance for her and her son, gym membership payments etc... it was never enough. Even then she complained I didnt give her spending money.Little by little I cut her off for these reasons, Bought her nice sexy cloth she would wear only when she went out alone so no more cloth from me girl, nice dark make up alone but excuses that she didnt feel like applying the war paint today that I was going with her,spent 45 minutes on the phone while at work with her ex but gives less then a minute anytime I call pratically hanging up on me since she is always busy (only for me) since she spoke to her ex over 30 minutes on several occasions while too buy at work.What do women want A MAN or Abuser help me understand please.It sound like I am bitter,no just hurt,and always give the same nice gentle-manly treatment to the next one after all it not the next ones fault. OHH by the way she never had a sitter for her thirteen year old son when I wanted to go out dancing , but found someplace for him when she went out clubbing alone.Go figure not this fool you don't.She is crying that she cannot pay her bills House included, Yeah I'll help. Help hold the bucket for them tears lol...
OMG! That is it EXACTLY: "They want a gentleman for a fool but a rebel by their side for adventure and thrills of danger."
Even as a Psychologist I don't know if I could have put it better! You should consider a Masters in Psych!!!
can't blame you for doing what you did, but i guess you just the wrong woman. wish you'll be lucky with the next one. cheers!
Get over it, it's not e-z. Just understand that they are the sick ones not you. Move on. Find someone that wants a decent man. However, do not try to spoil too soon. Women commonly mistake kindness for weakness. They also take longer to fall in love. Give up a bit at a time until you know it's right. Never keep giving to someone who doesn't care enough to give back. If you're doing that, you are equally to blame, and you must move on. Hope this helps!
I agree... women need to apriciate what a man does do. It should not be all about "us". It takes two to make it work, so why not be attentive to him also. Say thank you. When he compliments you or gives you the attention you want when you do want him to listen. Also... listen to him. Men should have a chance for advise as well as women.. What do we (as women)do wrong to men that try???
I have been married, and have two adult children. I am done paying for them now.(21 years later)I have never figured women out. I loved my wife very much, and did the best I could, In all department's. And It was not enough. so I am scarred. So every relationship I have had since then, has gone bad- for fear of rejection, however.... I know that some day, I will conquer my fear, and find a wonderful women!
oops! I spelled woman wrong!
Not really on the spot. Women do something to men's thinking process. Guys get all jittery, lose control of their thinking minds, blurt out all sorts of stupid and irrelevant things, make the funniest comments and generally behave like muttonheads. And of course they slip into the mode of impressing the women (trying to bowl her over)and telling her how wonderful she looks....without putting a lid on it.
He's not making mistakes....he just can't help making them. That's because he's bowled over.
A guy that isn't bowled over plays it cool and considered.
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hi there i see your lines and ty for them. my big thing is with ladys. they never say thank you or even seem like they are there for you. just a chance to get out of their cramped apartments. it would be nice to have a nice lady who apprecites a man. not only looking for a meal ticket. there is such a thing as sharing and caring. on a first date it would be nice for the lady to offer to pay for something as we are now in the 21st century and womens loberation is a full generation. afterall you do earn a salary of simliar or higher amounts than a man nowadays ?
why does it have to be always on the take take take. WADDAH ABOUT SHARE n CARE ?
even if it is the first date. many men feel wonderful to have a lady ask to pay for something dessert the tip the cab,even an enterance fee.
have a great day and warmer nights to you all.
M*I*K*E
i commend you for that mike. i'd rather the man accept his date's offer than talk behind her, she's expensive!!!!