I love that we can all see everything clearer on the outside. She obviously came to you cause she knew she could count on you and are a genuine person and still had feelings about you to some degree (We don't share being an emotional mess with everyone). We only contact people from that past that we care about or has made an impact on our lives. Right now, be her friend, you can throw her hints about your feelings but she is vulnerable - you don't want to be that guy - the sap we know will alway be there and do anything. Wait until everything settles. Be a good friend (but not over baring), once everything settles and she is back to normal emotionally, you can share your feelings. But right now is not the time. You don't want to be the ex/friend which is always her backup. Friendship is hard with girls/guys - It's an emotionally roller coaster, not sure why we love them so much, but we do and don't want to loose them. Keep your feelings to yourself until she is over the breakup.... Just remember we all keep people in our lives cause we care about them or they fulfill something we are envious of. More that likely she is looking for a geniune person, that she cares about and respects to get her everything. Friendship is the basis of being truely in Love!!
I disagree... when one knows they care for the other friends/ or friends that would do anything for each tother.... The person who cares who cares more is alwsys unsure of their place within within the life as a friend of the other; even if she/he says a lot of comments leading you in the wrong direction. The reality is how ho treats you on a day in and day out basis with or with out his friends (If he is a hit or miss.... The quesition is - how does he make you feel around his friends or someone he is trying to impress - guys like to impress (think is how it is correlated to how things go in the future... ie, is he a Jones meets Jones or I'd don't care wheat others think.... So being with each other doesn't count w other doesn't always cound, do you remember Sex & the City with Carries' friend - that is reality!
Don't do it.... My BF and I moved into together and everyone told me not too. We had hooked up many many time but neither of us wanted anything from each other. It was okay for 6 mths; but both of use became drama queens w/ each other. If there is any attraction - don't do it! You will only ruin the good friendship. Jealously comes even when you don't expect it or even want anything from the other person. Both will feel like like they need to pee on their tree at some point - really ruins amazing friendships...
I agree 150%... But then the sad thing is you loose a friend you thought would always be there. Doee anyone believe guys and gals can just be friends? I've always thought so, but now I'm questioning.
Hey - okay I am really screwed up. I have been the best of friends with this guy for the last 2 years(since he moved here from NY - we met through a friend 3 mnths before). At one time, he told me I was the closest person to him as his ex-wife. We both were the people that we first went to when anything happened(personal, family, career, etc.) We made the mistake that we moved into gether as roommates, cause we spent so much time together. Unfortunatly we have been sleeping together from the beginning (and he told me that I am the one person he has had the best sex with), we are compatiable on every level; I told each him from the beginng we had no expectation and I have told him many times I don't want anyting from him. I truely have never wanted anything from him cause I know he can't be faithful - but do love hime/ He has always told me he cared for me and done a lot for me, but continued to sleep around with others; but on the wrong side he always wants me to be bff with the new girl (which alone is wrong). In the last couple months I lost my job and moved out from him to my own place. Since then he has been a jerk - done anything and everything to make me feel like sh**) but told me he cares - Actions speek louder than words?? Even as far as ditching me a bar and not answering my calls or texts. I'm confused - he told me I was the closest person to him and cares, yet treats my like sh** when I need someone. Were we every friends or did he use me til he found his own friends?? Is it worth keeping him in my life??
ON Dating - Friend Zone
I love that we can all see everything clearer on the outside. She obviously came to you cause she knew she could count on you and are a genuine person and still had feelings about you to some degree (We don't share being an emotional mess with everyone). We only contact people from that past that we care about or has made an impact on our lives. Right now, be her friend, you can throw her hints about your feelings but she is vulnerable - you don't want to be that guy - the sap we know will alway be there and do anything. Wait until everything settles. Be a good friend (but not over baring), once everything settles and she is back to normal emotionally, you can share your feelings. But right now is not the time. You don't want to be the ex/friend which is always her backup. Friendship is hard with girls/guys - It's an emotionally roller coaster, not sure why we love them so much, but we do and don't want to loose them. Keep your feelings to yourself until she is over the breakup.... Just remember we all keep people in our lives cause we care about them or they fulfill something we are envious of. More that likely she is looking for a geniune person, that she cares about and respects to get her everything. Friendship is the basis of being truely in Love!!
ON Dating - Friend Zone
I disagree... when one knows they care for the other friends/ or friends that would do anything for each tother.... The person who cares who cares more is alwsys unsure of their place within within the life as a friend of the other; even if she/he says a lot of comments leading you in the wrong direction. The reality is how ho treats you on a day in and day out basis with or with out his friends (If he is a hit or miss.... The quesition is - how does he make you feel around his friends or someone he is trying to impress - guys like to impress (think is how it is correlated to how things go in the future... ie, is he a Jones meets Jones or I'd don't care wheat others think.... So being with each other doesn't count w other doesn't always cound, do you remember Sex & the City with Carries' friend - that is reality!
ON Dating - Friend Zone
Don't do it.... My BF and I moved into together and everyone told me not too. We had hooked up many many time but neither of us wanted anything from each other. It was okay for 6 mths; but both of use became drama queens w/ each other. If there is any attraction - don't do it! You will only ruin the good friendship. Jealously comes even when you don't expect it or even want anything from the other person. Both will feel like like they need to pee on their tree at some point - really ruins amazing friendships...
ON Dating - Friend Zone
I agree 150%... But then the sad thing is you loose a friend you thought would always be there. Doee anyone believe guys and gals can just be friends? I've always thought so, but now I'm questioning.
ON Dating - Friend Zone
Hey - okay I am really screwed up. I have been the best of friends with this guy for the last 2 years(since he moved here from NY - we met through a friend 3 mnths before). At one time, he told me I was the closest person to him as his ex-wife. We both were the people that we first went to when anything happened(personal, family, career, etc.) We made the mistake that we moved into gether as roommates, cause we spent so much time together. Unfortunatly we have been sleeping together from the beginning (and he told me that I am the one person he has had the best sex with), we are compatiable on every level; I told each him from the beginng we had no expectation and I have told him many times I don't want anyting from him. I truely have never wanted anything from him cause I know he can't be faithful - but do love hime/ He has always told me he cared for me and done a lot for me, but continued to sleep around with others; but on the wrong side he always wants me to be bff with the new girl (which alone is wrong). In the last couple months I lost my job and moved out from him to my own place. Since then he has been a jerk - done anything and everything to make me feel like sh**) but told me he cares - Actions speek louder than words?? Even as far as ditching me a bar and not answering my calls or texts. I'm confused - he told me I was the closest person to him and cares, yet treats my like sh** when I need someone. Were we every friends or did he use me til he found his own friends?? Is it worth keeping him in my life??