If you need a place to stay, you better not say anything until AFTER... LOL. Just kidding! Look, the biggest is misconception is that you'll lose the person as a friend if you let them know that you are attracted to them. Trust me, it won't. If anything, it will make your friendship even stronger, not weaker, unless of course you get all creepy about it. My advice is to tell her this and get prepared for her to give you a BIG kiss (on the lips or the cheeks): "I don't know if you've ever looked in a mirror and noticed how beautiful you are, but it's humanly impossible for a man to see you and not be attracted to you. And, well, I'm no different. (pause and wait for her response... if she doesn't say anything, continue with this line...) I just wanted to let you know that I'm not gay. (sigh, and then laugh... she'll love you to death afterward... as a friend or even more)
The person who does the dumping is always the one who insists that there is no reason you can't be "friends". Don't fall for this. It's a lame attempt to make themselves feel "not guilty" about their improprieties in your relationship. And, by you remaining "friends" with them, it lessens their burden. This person is not a "friend" at all. A "friend" would have the common sense to know that you can't "cut it off" with someone and expect them to still be your "friend". It's a very selfish expectation. My advice to you, move on and find some real "friends".
Men are the strangest creatures. I know because I am one and have been one for 36 years. We, believe it or not, are more emotional than women, it just shows differently. When we are going thru something we are the best friend you could have. Hell, we may even start having "feelings" for the person that is helping us get thru our rough spot. However, when everything stabilizes we get a clearer grip on how we feel about you. Unlike women, we don't express our feelings too well so we'd rather cut off communication abruptly and not answer phone calls, rather than take you aside and thanks for all the help you've been, but there's nothing more here. The occasional 1am - 3am call is a HUGE sign that this guy talks to you when he has a "need" of some sort, nothing more.
ON Dating - Friend Zone
If you need a place to stay, you better not say anything until AFTER... LOL. Just kidding! Look, the biggest is misconception is that you'll lose the person as a friend if you let them know that you are attracted to them. Trust me, it won't. If anything, it will make your friendship even stronger, not weaker, unless of course you get all creepy about it. My advice is to tell her this and get prepared for her to give you a BIG kiss (on the lips or the cheeks): "I don't know if you've ever looked in a mirror and noticed how beautiful you are, but it's humanly impossible for a man to see you and not be attracted to you. And, well, I'm no different. (pause and wait for her response... if she doesn't say anything, continue with this line...) I just wanted to let you know that I'm not gay. (sigh, and then laugh... she'll love you to death afterward... as a friend or even more)
ON Dating - Friend Zone
The person who does the dumping is always the one who insists that there is no reason you can't be "friends". Don't fall for this. It's a lame attempt to make themselves feel "not guilty" about their improprieties in your relationship. And, by you remaining "friends" with them, it lessens their burden. This person is not a "friend" at all. A "friend" would have the common sense to know that you can't "cut it off" with someone and expect them to still be your "friend". It's a very selfish expectation. My advice to you, move on and find some real "friends".
ON Dating - Friend Zone
Men are the strangest creatures. I know because I am one and have been one for 36 years. We, believe it or not, are more emotional than women, it just shows differently. When we are going thru something we are the best friend you could have. Hell, we may even start having "feelings" for the person that is helping us get thru our rough spot. However, when everything stabilizes we get a clearer grip on how we feel about you. Unlike women, we don't express our feelings too well so we'd rather cut off communication abruptly and not answer phone calls, rather than take you aside and thanks for all the help you've been, but there's nothing more here. The occasional 1am - 3am call is a HUGE sign that this guy talks to you when he has a "need" of some sort, nothing more.