Hey ray, this guy seems like a serious jerk from my experience. Of course sex feels good in the moment, but that should not determine the base of your relationship. Friendship is actually the foundation of your relationship, sex is a bonus. He wants you to care for him so he can call you whenever he wants to have sex. Unless there is something you left out, I would seriously kick this guy butt if I met him. I hate guys like this, gives us good guys a bad rep. I'm sorry, don't be fooled, a real man will not lead you on with sex and no friendship. Kick him in the balls for me. Peace, I wish you the best
Also, don't talk on the phone unless absolutely necessary. Phone talk will only end up her asking questions you cant answer, so hang out in person, phones are evil machines that just make you wish you were with that person ..in person
Hey laur, you need to learn some basic confidence. Its okay to be confident without cocky, which is the way you act around her friends because, duh, you dont like them the same way you like her. You are going to have to step out of your box when around her. Stop being afraid of what your going to say around her or when to say it. I know, I've been in the same situation and you will lose her because she thinks you dont like her because you dont say much. When you guys go out, just have fun, dont go on romantic, serious dates, it relaxes the atmosphere, as well as group dates. Group dates are the best advice for this situation because you wont feel like you have to entertain her, while you can still be funny because you are around her friends. Just make sure most of your attention is on her or she will think you dont like her. Peace
Hey barb, while I agree carl that this guy is probably over you or just wants to hook up, I don't think dating a hundred people is the answer. The more people you date the more boring it becomes and you just find yourself hooking up because it feels like. Seriously, you don't want that kind of baggage. I am a "smart" guy carl, but I dont want to sleep with everyone. Barbs, I actually think he does want to be friends with you, but tell him you guys just need to hang out with no action. If he pulls even the slightest move on you cut it off. If you cant hang out with him without thinking about him all the time then you also need to cut ties with him. Look forward, not back, the right dude wont treat you like this.
It's simple, you just need to tell her your feelings even if you think she already knows. That way you've covered your bases. Also, tell her that, that you need her to know before you move in and then leave the decision up to her whether she still wants to move in. She will feel better and more secure knowing you are going to tell her anything that might jeapordize your relationship. You know what to do, you don't seem quite as lost as some of these people.lol Just don't force it, confront it! Peace
Why is it that people say,"Oh, they'll end up lovers, not friends." Don't you guys realize that your partner is your best friend? That is why relationships fail, because they were based on friendship, then the guy makes a move and instead of doing the fun stuff, they base their elationship on passion/sex which in doomed to failure even if it is great in the moment. Men should woo you their whole life, not just till you get in bed. Trust me, it is possible to be friends with a girl, but girls need to keep up barriers that protect themselves. By saying,"Hey, lets hang out at this romantic restaurant." Oh, thats a great freakin idea! Relationships don't turn into lover-ships if you keep a certain distance
If you like her, Don't Move In with Her! This is a common pitfall among men. You want to talk about moving too fast lol. If you tell her after you move in that you like her and she doesn't have the same feelings she will feel disrespected that you just moved in because you like her. Then it's super awkward. If you move in and she does like you, great but that is way too fast. Something doesn't seem right here. If she liked you she should as a decent human being tell you before asking you to be a roommate. Also, there is no mystery when you live with someone. You know everything about them...boring. Tell her you respect her, but can't move in because you like her. Ask her on date first for God's sakes. ANd not a cheesy romantic date she wants to have fun. Peace
Hey Keeper, he honestly just doesn't want you to be mad at him for dumping you. He didn't feel a strong enough attraction to you so to not fully hurt you he says,"Let's just be friend's." Unfortunately, this won't work unless you guys hang out with groups of friends. His new girl certainly won't let you hang out together nor is it appropriate. If you still like him cut off contact and if he see's what he missed out on then great, but you can't harp on the past. I know it's painfull, but look forward there are better things in store.
Hey lil, this guy you work with needs to respect your bounderies. You can't be acting desperate and calling him back, but at the same time you shouldn't answer when he calls because he see's you as a problem solver that he can go to (possibly cause you're wiser/older, in his mind anyway) whenever he needs help. If you like him, don't give him advice! 1. You don't know the full story nomatter what he tells you. 2. You won't honestly give him the right advice because you are naturally selfishly motivated. 3. You need to just have fun with him at work, no guy would get into a relationship with someone if they are no fun. By being fun, he'll see your feelings and his will come out.
Ok Valley, you just need to calm down. lol First, Don't tell her you love her! lol You take her out on a casual date(some kind of sport, fishing, bakery, picnic) if she says "no" then you know right there to shut up, but if she says "yes" take it from there. Until you guys are seriously into a relationship...DONT TELL HER YOU LOVE HER. She will think you are a psycho(which you might be/idk)lol and never call you back. If you are psycho, then the above situation will still work because it covers your psycho tracks by playing it slow...lol I love this board
Hey justme, While I'm not Andrea I can tell that you need to let them know exactly how you feel. If you leave any doubt in their mind they will still pursue you. It's unfortunate, but you must tell them,"Hey, you're nice, but I'm not attracted to you." See how he/she responds. It's going to be painful for them nomatter what you say so get it all of your chest so you don't have to revisit the situation again. Peace
Hey Ralphy, First of all...False! We good guys are smarter, therefore we plan better because (if you want stereotypes) we all know that bad boys don't give a crap about planning ahead or being thoughtful, oh unless of course they are planning on getting laid. My first girlfriend still talks about me four years later. I was in a restaurant and these girls that worked with my ex said, "Oh, you're michael." Hell yeah I am! Because I treated her with respect even when I knew it wasn't going to work. I can think of ten times more ways to have fun over a cliche bad boy. I could be an asshole if I wanted to, but I'd rather have people say nice things about me.
Hey ksaclo, its because they have never been with a confident, handsome, good guy. At my university, I could date any girl on campus. Seriously, they know I'm a good guy, but I'm not a nerd. If it means searching for a while to find him, why not?
Most girls think that they have to be unique or original to get noticed by a man, and in turn, they start talking too much. You don't ladies, quit trying to force a false impression of yourself because you're desperate. Let the right one come along, it just takes time. Please women, stay genuine. Peace
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ON Dating - Friend Zone
Hey ray, this guy seems like a serious jerk from my experience. Of course sex feels good in the moment, but that should not determine the base of your relationship. Friendship is actually the foundation of your relationship, sex is a bonus. He wants you to care for him so he can call you whenever he wants to have sex. Unless there is something you left out, I would seriously kick this guy butt if I met him. I hate guys like this, gives us good guys a bad rep. I'm sorry, don't be fooled, a real man will not lead you on with sex and no friendship. Kick him in the balls for me. Peace, I wish you the best
ON Dating - Friend Zone
Also, don't talk on the phone unless absolutely necessary. Phone talk will only end up her asking questions you cant answer, so hang out in person, phones are evil machines that just make you wish you were with that person ..in person
ON Dating - Friend Zone
Hey laur, you need to learn some basic confidence. Its okay to be confident without cocky, which is the way you act around her friends because, duh, you dont like them the same way you like her. You are going to have to step out of your box when around her. Stop being afraid of what your going to say around her or when to say it. I know, I've been in the same situation and you will lose her because she thinks you dont like her because you dont say much. When you guys go out, just have fun, dont go on romantic, serious dates, it relaxes the atmosphere, as well as group dates. Group dates are the best advice for this situation because you wont feel like you have to entertain her, while you can still be funny because you are around her friends. Just make sure most of your attention is on her or she will think you dont like her. Peace
ON Dating - Friend Zone
Hey barb, while I agree carl that this guy is probably over you or just wants to hook up, I don't think dating a hundred people is the answer. The more people you date the more boring it becomes and you just find yourself hooking up because it feels like. Seriously, you don't want that kind of baggage. I am a "smart" guy carl, but I dont want to sleep with everyone. Barbs, I actually think he does want to be friends with you, but tell him you guys just need to hang out with no action. If he pulls even the slightest move on you cut it off. If you cant hang out with him without thinking about him all the time then you also need to cut ties with him. Look forward, not back, the right dude wont treat you like this.
ON Dating - Friend Zone
It's simple, you just need to tell her your feelings even if you think she already knows. That way you've covered your bases. Also, tell her that, that you need her to know before you move in and then leave the decision up to her whether she still wants to move in. She will feel better and more secure knowing you are going to tell her anything that might jeapordize your relationship. You know what to do, you don't seem quite as lost as some of these people.lol Just don't force it, confront it! Peace
ON Dating - Friend Zone
Why is it that people say,"Oh, they'll end up lovers, not friends." Don't you guys realize that your partner is your best friend? That is why relationships fail, because they were based on friendship, then the guy makes a move and instead of doing the fun stuff, they base their elationship on passion/sex which in doomed to failure even if it is great in the moment. Men should woo you their whole life, not just till you get in bed. Trust me, it is possible to be friends with a girl, but girls need to keep up barriers that protect themselves. By saying,"Hey, lets hang out at this romantic restaurant." Oh, thats a great freakin idea! Relationships don't turn into lover-ships if you keep a certain distance
ON Dating - Friend Zone
If you like her, Don't Move In with Her! This is a common pitfall among men. You want to talk about moving too fast lol. If you tell her after you move in that you like her and she doesn't have the same feelings she will feel disrespected that you just moved in because you like her. Then it's super awkward. If you move in and she does like you, great but that is way too fast. Something doesn't seem right here. If she liked you she should as a decent human being tell you before asking you to be a roommate. Also, there is no mystery when you live with someone. You know everything about them...boring. Tell her you respect her, but can't move in because you like her. Ask her on date first for God's sakes. ANd not a cheesy romantic date she wants to have fun. Peace
ON Dating - Friend Zone
Hey Keeper, he honestly just doesn't want you to be mad at him for dumping you. He didn't feel a strong enough attraction to you so to not fully hurt you he says,"Let's just be friend's." Unfortunately, this won't work unless you guys hang out with groups of friends. His new girl certainly won't let you hang out together nor is it appropriate. If you still like him cut off contact and if he see's what he missed out on then great, but you can't harp on the past. I know it's painfull, but look forward there are better things in store.
ON Dating - Friend Zone
Hey lil, this guy you work with needs to respect your bounderies. You can't be acting desperate and calling him back, but at the same time you shouldn't answer when he calls because he see's you as a problem solver that he can go to (possibly cause you're wiser/older, in his mind anyway) whenever he needs help. If you like him, don't give him advice! 1. You don't know the full story nomatter what he tells you. 2. You won't honestly give him the right advice because you are naturally selfishly motivated. 3. You need to just have fun with him at work, no guy would get into a relationship with someone if they are no fun. By being fun, he'll see your feelings and his will come out.
ON Dating - Ask Andrea III
Ok Valley, you just need to calm down. lol First, Don't tell her you love her! lol You take her out on a casual date(some kind of sport, fishing, bakery, picnic) if she says "no" then you know right there to shut up, but if she says "yes" take it from there. Until you guys are seriously into a relationship...DONT TELL HER YOU LOVE HER. She will think you are a psycho(which you might be/idk)lol and never call you back. If you are psycho, then the above situation will still work because it covers your psycho tracks by playing it slow...lol I love this board
ON Dating - Ask Andrea III
Hey justme, While I'm not Andrea I can tell that you need to let them know exactly how you feel. If you leave any doubt in their mind they will still pursue you. It's unfortunate, but you must tell them,"Hey, you're nice, but I'm not attracted to you." See how he/she responds. It's going to be painful for them nomatter what you say so get it all of your chest so you don't have to revisit the situation again. Peace
ON Dating - Nice Guys
Hey Ralphy, First of all...False! We good guys are smarter, therefore we plan better because (if you want stereotypes) we all know that bad boys don't give a crap about planning ahead or being thoughtful, oh unless of course they are planning on getting laid. My first girlfriend still talks about me four years later. I was in a restaurant and these girls that worked with my ex said, "Oh, you're michael." Hell yeah I am! Because I treated her with respect even when I knew it wasn't going to work. I can think of ten times more ways to have fun over a cliche bad boy. I could be an asshole if I wanted to, but I'd rather have people say nice things about me.
ON Dating - Nice Guys
Hey ksaclo, its because they have never been with a confident, handsome, good guy. At my university, I could date any girl on campus. Seriously, they know I'm a good guy, but I'm not a nerd. If it means searching for a while to find him, why not?
ON Dating - Mistakes Women Make
Most girls think that they have to be unique or original to get noticed by a man, and in turn, they start talking too much. You don't ladies, quit trying to force a false impression of yourself because you're desperate. Let the right one come along, it just takes time. Please women, stay genuine. Peace